Self-awareness and self-denial are sometimes two sides of the same coin -- at least for me. A lot of Saturn-in-Pisces has been about querying the reality of my limits -- am I really "done" or am I just not pushing myself hard enough? In a way, as much as I feared this transit, I was also looking forward to it. Though I had a rocky start with some health issues, I have also stuck to my weight-lifting program for the past six months, never missing my workout for more than a weekend tops. I guess, like every transit, there are good and bad signs.
I totally feel for your husband's Sat-Nept conjunction. I can only imagine the whole duty/sacrifice/obligation dynamic and, I'm assuming, fear of letting others down?